Make Sure the Divorce Court Judge Likes You

April 6, 2016

If you are thinking about filing for divorce, or if you are already going through the divorce process, you need to understand that divorce court might not always seem “fair.” The truth is that the judges who sit in NY family courts and who handle divorce cases are only human. As human beings, New York divorce court judges have their own personal biases and can be influenced by factors that, at first glance, might not appear to be essential to your divorce case.

Don’t take any chances when it comes to your divorce proceedings. You want to do everything possible to make sure that the outcome is favorable and that you get a fair and equitable division of property and other assets once the divorce is finalized.

Here are some things you may want to consider before you appear in court for your divorce case:

  • Treat Your Spouse with Respect: It can sometimes be difficult to control your emotions during a divorce proceeding when your ex-wife or ex-husband is sitting in the courtroom with you. This is especially true if the divorce is particularly heated or contentious. However, it is absolutely imperative that you maintain your composure and show respect toward your spouse because you do not want the judge to “judge” you for the wrong reasons.

  • Show Respect toward the Judge: You need to recognize that the judge has absolute authority in the courtroom, so treat the judge with the utmost respect and do not talk down to them at any time. Along these same lines, do not interrupt the judge while they are speaking.

  • Dress Appropriately: Your appearance matters, especially in a courtroom. How you look can often affect how you are perceived. It can also give hints to the judge about how seriously you take the divorce proceedings.

For further information about things you should be aware of during divorce proceedings, see the Huffington Post article, “5 Things Your Divorce Judge Wants to Tell You, But Doesn’t.”

If you are considering filing for divorce in New York, you should speak with a qualified divorce lawyer who can make sure that your assets are protected. Jonathan D. Katz is an experienced and knowledgeable divorce attorney who will help you throughout the divorce process. Contact Mr. Katz now to schedule a consultation about your case.

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