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When you are faced with legal issues regarding your marriage, working closely with an attorney who will explain clearly all rights, options and consequences can help to ensure that you make decisions that are in your best interests. Contact our firm today to schedule a consultation and case evaluation with an experienced family law attorney.

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The success or failure of a relationship may hinge on how well the couple deals with issues such as money management, communication, conflict, parenting, in-laws, leisure time, sexuality, family of origin, spirituality, expectations, and household chores. Most couples don't talk about these issues before they get married and are surprised one or two years down the road when conflict seems more prevalent than romance.

While a family law attorney can help you create a premarital agreement to avoid conflict about financial and property division issues, it is helpful for couples to ask themselves many other questions. Take some time to review this lengthy list with your future or existing spouse. You may be surprised how open communication about these subjects will improve your relationship. If you do discover it would be helpful to develop a premarital agreement, or reconciliatory agreement if you are already married, consult with an experienced family law attorney at Jonathan D. Katz in New Paltz. Your meeting will be more successful because you both took the time to thoroughly discuss key issues in your life.

Motivation

Why are you getting married, or why did you get married?

Many couples get married due to pregnancy, loneliness, or other reasons. If you are clear about your motivation, it is less likely you will have unrealistic expectations.

Finances

What are your expectations regarding finances?
Do you intend to share everything 50/50?
Does one partner earn significantly more than the other or have substantially greater assets?

It's important to know each other's expectations about finances. Talking through and memorializing how you expect to divide your assets in the unfortunate event of divorce reduces the likelihood of conflict even if you don't end up separating. Remember, each state views marital and separate property differently. All states view property acquired before the marriage or received as a gift or inheritance during the marriage as separate property - it is not shared by the marriage. The states are divided about how to treat marital property - the property acquired or earned during the marriage. Community property states divide marital property equally, while the other states use equitable distribution and divide the property "fairly," which could be 50/50 or some other proportion.

Money Management

Do you intend on living within a budget? Who will manage the budget?
Who will pay bills? Which bills?
Will you have a joint checking account?
Will major assets be held jointly?
What are your long-term financial goals? How will you achieve them?

Daily Life

How will you divide the household chores?
How will you make decisions if you disagree?
What if one partner does not fulfill their end of an agreement?
Are you willing to work through conflict? Have you been successful in the past?

Children & Parenting

Do you want to have children? How many?
If necessary, will you adopt? Will you adopt a foreign-born child?
How will you raise your children? Will one parent stay home? Which parent?
Will your children attend public or private school? If the marriage is not successful, who will pay child support and who will pay college expenses?

Personal Philosophy

Does religion play an important part in your life?
Do you think faith and spirituality are important in a marriage?
Are you comfortable discussing your sexual likes and dislikes?
Do you mind if your spouse spends a lot of time alone or pursuing leisure activities without you?
How will you make sure you have quality time together as a couple?

Conclusion

We hope these questions will guide you and your future or existing spouse in what becomes a lifelong open dialogue. Pursuing this type of discussion will reveal mismatched expectations and help you resolve areas of discrepancy before they become divisive. If you encounter issues that require assistance from an attorney, such as financial issues, property titles, adoption or child support questions, be sure to consult with an attorney at Jonathan D. Katz in NY.

DISCLAIMER: This site and any information contained herein are intended for informational purposes only and should not be construed as legal advice. Seek competent legal counsel for advice on any legal matter.

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Ready or Not? Marriage Test